Tag: Undergoing change

Letting go

In January I started a six month course in Narrative Coaching with Dr David Drake, a leading specialist in this field. Narrative Coaching is based on the concept “that stories are at the core of what makes us human“, and is aimed at supporting people in a safe and structured coaching environment to share their stories, to experiment and imagine new ones, and to embody and bring these new stories into being. It is a powerful way to assist people to change.

As a continuous learner I love nothing more than the challenge of new concepts, discovering new ideas, and appreciating what a diverse and wonderful world it is that we live in. I also enjoy observing and experiencing how my learning teaches me new and different ways to live, to work with people to bring their ideas to life.

Before we started David sent us a four powerful prompts to help us prepare for the course, to get us in the right frame of mind for the forthcoming immersive learning experience. The questions were framed to encourage us to reflect on our lives, who we are in the world, what has lead us into coaching, how we work with and listen to our coachees; all important and reflective questions.

Which assumptions, habits, stories or outdated practices could you let go of in order to free yourself to work more powerfully as a coach?

The most powerful and challenging of the four questions was the one above. It was followed up with a discussion on self-limiting beliefs in our first live session. Reflecting on this question and the discussion I came to the realisation I was indeed holding myself back; that some of my assumptions, habits and stories, self limiting beliefs – around being a successful writer, a successful coach, of being the best person I know I can be – were on a continuous re-wind loop. A loop keeping me stuck just spinning my wheels.

It was a liberating realisation because it highlighted things I can let go of – mainly beliefs and old stories not grounded in current reality – and made me aware that I am standing in my own way by hanging onto these things. Importantly, it reminded me that things do not have to be this way; I can let go and move forward and that is perfectly OK.

I am still pondering the question and looking forward to discovering what else I can let go of in the coming months. What about you? Anything that is holding you back, no longer serving you, that can be released?

 


Drake, David B. (2018) Narrative Coaching: the definitive guide to bringing new stories to life. CNC Press, California

The importance of your support team

Recently my long time friend Jai Waters and I released a book on how to affect positive change in your life.  It’s called MORE LEMON: How to transition to a life with more Zest and details can be found on our site.

In the book we talk about the importance of having a support team around when you undergo major change – a change of job, a major or minor life change, a relationship change, a change of direction.  Your support team is made up of trusted family and friends who wish to see you succeed in whatever you do.  Those who will stand by you as you face challenges, provide regular reality checks and morale boosts, and of course celebrate your wins.

On my support team is my great friend Reed Everingham, a therapist based in the Blue Mountains west of Sydney.  Reed was also a beta reader for our book providing valuable feedback that enabled us to iron out doubts we had about some of our chapters and strengthen the overall impact of the book.  He has also written about the experience and the book on his blog, which can be found on his site.

Our support team of beta readers was important as it enabled us to gauge whether the book was “working” in the way we wanted it to, if people could fully relate to it and importantly would want to read it.  Our wider support team supported and nurtured us in other ways – cooking lovely food and sharing meals where we discussed ideas, making suggestions for inclusion in the book, keeping us stimulated by talking about events occurring outside our creative cocoon, taking us off to the movies, making us laugh to keep our sense of humour in place.  The list goes on.  They kept us connected to the bigger world as we immersed ourselves in our writing and creative processes.

As we say in the book “change does not occur in isolation” and all those close to you are impacted by whatever is occurring for you.  Creating is the same – we are all stimulated by the world in which we live, the people who surround us.  Invite your trusted friends and family to be a part of your creative and change activities as a support team.  They’ll value the invite and you’ll value their support.  Win-win.

Who will you welcome onto your support team?

Coaching can assist you to explore and enhance your creative process.  For further information about coaching please get in touch.